“Are Men OK?” was The Nation magazine’s title in April 2025. It highlights content and conversation not enough of us are engaged in, even within our personal spheres. ‘Where are the men?’ is a frequent question in certain circles, often let to rest unanswered. Let’s explore how we all might better “spot” the men in our own lives— that is, metaphorically applying the coaching and support of a gym weightlifter who provides “spotting” for another trying to grow and change.